Date: 25-10-2022
Last night I had a dream about dad. It was quite a positive dream. In the dream my brother wanted to celebrate his birthday. He had moved out of the house of our mother again, and lived at the place where he used to live before he moved in with his now ex girlfriend. But that was now also a student dorm, but with the same agreements he had prior when he first moved into that place.
My brother had invited many friends and family. Both our parents were invited too. In this dream, our parents were divorced. My sister wasn’t there. It was unclear to me whether she wasn’t invited or had declined the invitation. It wasn’t an important thing in the dream, but just a given she wasn’t there.
I too had been allowed to come to this party, but things were still on edge between me and my brother. While at the party I sought the company of our dad. He looked a lot younger, maybe in his early forties. His demeanour was a bit boy-like, while also having a grey hair here and there. He told me he was doing really well since the divorce. He had found himself again.
I wanted to tell him how I am doing some basic carpeting myself now, working with tools in the garage, and that I now finally understood why he himself was always busy working on something late in the evening in the garage, always building or fixing something. I now finally could appreciate how much joy it gave him as I too enjoy it a lot. But dad had so much to tell me that I just sat and listened to him talk.
And he talked and talked and talked. He had so much to say. He talked about how he never had become who he wanted to be, but now he did. It was a treat to just have this moment with him, without any conditions and expectations on either side. We could both just be us, and he was clearly doing well. I have forgotten most of what we (he) talked about but I did recall him asking specifically about my sister.
He asked if we (my sister and I) were still in contact with each other. I told him that we indeed occasionally talked and even meet up sometimes, and that her children often ask when they will go to their uncle (me) again. Dad was delighted to hear this, and asked me to give my sister his regards. I told him I will, and when I woke up I told my sister about this dream.
Analysis:
This was such a peaceful dream. I really enjoyed talking to dad. Things between us were good. There was an understanding between us.
There were a few messages in this dream. My mom and dad were divorced in this dream. I think this is a metaphor for them no longer being together due to his passing. “Until death do us part.” In Dutch the word for ‘divorce’ is the same as the word for ‘parting’ so that makes even more sense.
He was doing better, and had found himself. I think this could mean he has found inner peace in the beyond. He was indeed calm and at peace. He told me he was discovering who he really was. It’s fascinating.
He came to my brother’s birthday party. Maybe this tells me he is watching over M. That is something I hope.
I’ve been dreaming many things lately suggesting M is not doing so well right now. The things I’ve seen suggest he is not in a peaceful place right now. Maybe unbalanced. But in this dream he had felt like celebrating his birthday again, even going so far as to invite me. Maybe this means that he is coming to terms with something, or is able to find his drive again. It is a positive sign he celebrated it. I hope he is doing well.
